You are having lunch with your friend, looking forward to a nice meal and a good conversation but once again she turns the conversation to complaining about life. You can deal with it occasionally, but she has turned in to a constant complainer. You have no clue handle it. Just follow these simple steps to learn deal with a complainer.
Instructions
1. Listen to what they have to say. Do not offer solutions to fix the problem as that is not what they want. They just want to be heard and understood.
2. Try to have empathy. Pretend that you are in his situation and see how it would make you feel to be unhappy with your life. Relay to him or her how you would feel.
3. Inquire on what she would like you to do to help. Asking her makes her feel more in control of the situation which is what she needs. A lot of times the complainer does not even want you to do anything to help, just to listen.
4. Don't apologize if the complaint is about something that you have done. Just listen and try to understand why they are complaining.
5. Minimize the amount of time spent with the complainer. Being around someone who is consistently unhappy can bring you down and cause you to focus more on what is not perfect in your life.
6. Attempt to be a positive influence on the complainer. Try to lead by example to show how you deal with life in a positive way.
7. Offer positive help in subtle ways by suggesting books or self-help websites such as drphil.com and selfhelpbooks.com so they can gain a more positive outlook on life.
